76. Are You Good Enough?

Episode Summary

One of my all star clients recently told me that the thought "I'm not good enough" had been . This is someone who has achieved remarkable things so hearing her say that made me pause and think deeply about how this belief shows up in all of us, especially for ambitious people in the middle of doing big things. In this episode, I break down three distinct ways "not good enough" operates and why it matters that we learn to tell them apart. 

Key Takeaways

• The thought "I'm not good enough" is one of the oldest and most universal human stories, and it tends to get louder when we pursue something bigger than what we've done before
• When "not good enough" is tied to worthiness, it creates shame, which keeps us stuck, small, and in pain. This version requires a conscious decision that our value is intrinsic, not earned
• When "not good enough" reflects an actual skill gap, it becomes a growth opportunity. This is where a growth mindset and the concept of upgrading your self-concept become essential
• When "not good enough" is triggered by rejection or criticism from others, we need to develop the ability to let people have their opinions while we protect our sense of self-worth
• Bigger goals naturally widen the gap between where you are and where you want to be, which can amplify feelings of inadequacy. The key is not letting that gap become a statement about your worthiness
• We can hold both truths at once: acceptance and love for who we are today while also pursuing growth and evolution
• One of Carolina's favorite mantras for falling short: "Oh, look at me being human"

Memorable Quotes

• "I believe that worthy doesn't come from anything outside of us. It's believing that our value is intrinsic, not earned."
• "If we truly believe we're not good enough, then maybe we're not gonna pursue that big thing. Maybe we're gonna choose to stay where we feel comfortable."
• "The bigger your goal, the bigger your mission, the more ambition you have, the bigger that gap between where you are and where you want to be."
• "One of my coaching mentors would always tell us not to use the coaching concepts against ourselves."
• "When we can accept our humanity, which is tied to this belief that no matter what we are worthy, then we can embrace the growth mindset and continue to evolve and grow."

Resources Mentioned:

• Episode 67: The Psychology of Goal Setting for $1mm Founders

Connect with Carolina:

• Want more info on the Visionary Mindset Program? Go here, fill out your name and email and we'll provide all the details: carozuleta.com/visionary
• LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/carolinazuletacoaching
• Email: info (at) carolinazuleta (dot) com

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